I love good healthy relationships with women. Women are amazing creatures. We nurture, love and support those around us. At times we are strong and fearless without measure. However at other times we are broken and wounded from the beat downs that life has placed on us. When you have a woman in your corner that loves you please know that you will be encouraged to reach heights that your mind would seem unimaginable. What a loss for a woman to not have at least one woman in her corner. There is nothing like women being there for each other in encouragement, prayer and support. I remember the women my mom had as her close girlfriends. Looking back I can now say that they were more than her friends they were her sisters. My Mom was the second oldest in a family of 5 boys so her girlfriends filled that gap of “sisterhood” in her life. These strong women celebrated each other through marriages and childbirths and comforted each other through divorce, death and any other hardships they may have faced in life. I was never allowed to call them by their first names. No way. For me it was always “Miss” in front of their first name. Those women remembered my birthdays; they talked to me about boys during my awkward teen years. They were there for me through my own growth and development. All of these women were my catalyst into womanhood.
I learned from them the importance of solid friendships. I learned the differences between seasonal and lifetime relationships. I learned that the very cloth they were cut from was the same cloth that each one of them used to wipe the tears from their eyes when their hearts were broken. I knew pieces of each one of their stories. I knew of those married to men with alcohol addictions. I knew the ones who were abused by their husbands. I listened to their stories as they talked about children who had been in prison or on drugs or sometimes both. Their stories aren’t different from our stories today. They too dealt with infidelity. Some became single moms and providers of their families when the men left.
My mother and her friends were a different breed of women but all of our stories are the same. What we all have in common as women is our ability to love in spite of. Our ability to build with sometimes very little and our ability to hope against hope even when the deck is stacked high and against us.
My encouragement for someone today is that if you haven’t already become your sister’s keeper. Check on her, support her and help her grow. Love her without judgement. Yes there will be women that you run across with whom you won’t be a good fit and that is normal. But don’t let what society tells us about women be the measuring stick used to push all women away. We all need someone. Every single one of us is in need. Am I my sister’s keeper? Yes indeed we most certainly are.